Despite the title, this article isn’t about men. It’s about YOU. You are the most important person in your life and from within YOU flows everything that your life is to be made up of. It should be liberating to know that the quality of your relationships is a result of you, not who the men you meet are not. Keep this in mind when interacting with men. When dating who you are, is constantly on display. So it is important to make sure that who you are is a reflection of what you want. You owe it to yourself to be sure that the reflection is on par with your true desires. That is the only way to be certain that you will receive them.
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A question I like to pose to my female audience is; are all men dogs? The answers and the debates that follow are entertaining, passionate and even inspiring at times. My search and re-search for an answer to that question has brought me to a realization, a rebuttal of sorts. All men are not dogs, all men are observers. Speaking of observation here are 5 Things Men identify with.
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He Can Handle the Truth
It is imperative that you first be real with yourself about what you are looking for and that you then relay that to the men in your lives. This alleviates confusion and can keep you from hearing the “I didn’t know you wanted to be exclusive” excuse later on down the line. Be open about your wants, needs and desires. Save the fairy tales for the movies and deal with reality when it comes to your heart.
Love Thy Self
A confident woman shines as a light on a hill. But the lack thereof cannot be hidden. It starts and ends with you. It is about what you think of yourself. Self Confidence will keep you from the Cardinal Sin; seeking validation from a man. Remember a man will see you how you see yourself.
He’ll Love You for Your Ambition
Any man that will ever be worth your while will be attracted to your desire to want and be more. Your need for achievement will either excite or indict those in pursuit of you helping you sift through the dating pool efficiently. Only an insecure man will frown upon your goals and want your life to revolve solely around him. Ambition is a force that propels you forward and when in motion you will attract men progressing just as you are. Keep Moving.
Want vs. Need
It’s fine to want a man but when you get to a place where you feel that you need a man you should be worried. A man can sense desperation and when he does he will either walk away or pounce. It’s a dangerous thing to deem a man’s attention and affection to be more valuable than the standards you have hopefully set in place. When the wrong man gets the sense that you need him he will give you HELL. You need to quote your inner Angela Bassett and tell him “Don’t think you’re special. You may be cute, but not special.”
In my adult life I can confidently say that 90 percent of the women with whom I have had sexual relations never asked me about a condom. They seemed to leave that option up to me as they lay naked and vulnerable. I pray that this isn’t you. AIDS, Herpes and other STDs are running rampant through our communities at an alarming rate with women often being affected and infected the most. You only get one body. Please be sure to treasure it for all of our sakes. You want a man who cares about his body as well as his future. A man that isn’t interested in living for just for today. That type of man will not mind using condoms, actually he will encourage it.
With you in mind,
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words by : Kevin Carr
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