Step #1: For the first three months, it is self evaluation time. Are you a part of the problem? Many of you will not be able to answer this question truthfully so let me help you out a bit. If you can be a better spouse and you are not, then you are a part of the problem. I know it was a couple of years back and there was a lot of excitement at the time and you were probably hung over but on your wedding day at some point you vowed to be the best spouse in the world. Try that being the best spouse in the world thing before leaving your marriage. Being the best spouse is not about what your spouse deserves. It is about making sure that you are giving your best effort in your marriage.
Step #2: For the next three more months purge your anger. Get rid of your heartache and disappointment and most of all stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not the only person in the world that has had trouble in their marriage. Purging yourself of your anger is a decision that you have to make, it is not a feeling that you acquire over time. You have to say to yourself, “I can have a happy marriage if I can be a happy person.” You cannot save a marriage, compromise, meet halfway, see your spouse’s point of view, you can’t do anything for your marriage if you continue to blame them for your emotionally instability. You have to forgive and heal before you can start working on fixing your marriage. If you cannot purge your anger be sure to take responsibility and explain to all your friends and family that you are the problem and that marriage. Let your family know that your spouse deserves someone who will try a lot harder to save their marriage.
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