When I clicked on the link to watch the “Black Marriage Negotiations” video that’s been invading inboxes and Facebook walls over the past week, I was expecting to see something funny. Not just because the subject line said something like, “LOL!!! YOU HAVE TO WATCH THIS,” but also because marriage has always been a good source of comedy in the black community. Think back to Clair and Cliff Huxtable in The Cosby Show, Roc and Eleanor in Rock, or Martin and Gina from Martin (who I know weren’t married for the majority of the show, but let’s not get into semantics); the marriages we saw on-screen made us laugh at some point.
But when I watched the clip and saw an animated black businesswoman sitting across a conference table from a black businessman, ticking off an extensive list of demands, I didn’t laugh. I just kind of smiled and said, “True.” Then I went on with the rest of my day.