In a respectful, loving way ask for what you want.
Make a clear, specific request about exactly what you want or need. Avoid criticisms and judgments such as, “You never do any housework! You’re lazy!” They’ll cause a man to feel either ashamed or angered, and neither result will help your cause.
Present the issue as a problem for which you need help.
But, remember: he is not the problem–getting the housework done is the problem. Allow your man to come up with options and make suggestions.
Leave room for new ideas and a full, honest conversation about housework and related issues.
Stay calm, be open and make yourself listen to him, even if you don’t agree with what he says.