Sure your kids may prefer to think of you as their asexual single mom whose sole purpose is to do their laundry, make them peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and remind them to brush their teeth. And, although that is hardly the case, you’re slightly to blame for giving them that impression. However when they’re with their dad on the weekends you’ve been secretly sneaking around with a pretty terrific guy who, in the privacy of your mind, you even refer to as your boyfriend. Here are some tips :
Don’t expect your date to be a father figure
“I’m not looking for a new “daddy” or another “parent” just someone who can be a good friend to my boys,” said Ms. Pace who is currently dating a guy she feels has been a great example to her boys and has been able to integrate himself into the family. “I also prefer to date other single parents. Relationships are hard enough to sustain as it is, so it’s important that you’re on the same page, and another single parent usually gets where you’re coming from.”
Be honest with your kids
Dating as a single mom can be especially tough on those whose kids aren’t used to spending time away from their moms but ultimately being honest with your kids about your needs can help in your relationship with them and in your dating life.
Your happiness makes your kids happy
According to Isadora Alman, author of Doing it: Real People Having Really Good Sex and syndicated sex and relationship columnist at www.askisadora.com, unfortunately when single moms can’t deal with issues such as introductions and sleepovers they might feel it’s easiest to forget their whole dating life until the children are older or out of the house.